LDR or Long Distance Relationship
is a trend nowadays among adults. Why I say adults? Teenagers won’t cope with
LDR, they are easily get bored and likely hunt another partner to be with.
Many people says it is difficult
to have a LDR, also chances to do an affair with other sex opposite is very
easy to happen. However, there are some couples that love doing LDR, they
could feel their heart near while others in a long journey – not the opposite.
They are near, but there is a distance between their hearts.
I’ve been experienced LDR when I
worked in another country. It was one
year without my boy friend, and we did it so well – then I start asking,
why anyone could fail, when we could pass it?
LDR Positives!
I ensure you that you’ll miss
each other badly. Thank God to our modern technology that we have “skype” and “face
time” now! You will find that communication is effortless. Even though you will
lose your saving money to buy credit to your phone, you will always texting and
calling each other. The positive of LDR is you can have your “boundary freedom.”
This means, you can do your hobbies, you can hang out with your friends, and do
your works or tasks for even in a better result. You can go every Friday for “Girls Night Out” without even worrying someone will drag you home- when you still
want to dance.
LDR Negatives…
Trust breaking is number one
obstacle in this relation. It easy for your partner to judge you having another
crush with another man or woman if – for example, you don’t call your partner,
you forgot replying his or her sms - or
any simple thing. My boyfriend did a long distance call for 3 hours- just to
get an argument with me.. and, guess what, he spent 2 million rupiah for his
call. Well.. well. What should I say?
Flirting with another man or
woman is really tempting. I’ve met some foreigners who really liked me and
wanted our relationship would grow more than friend. At that time, I personally
did not have any intention to do any relation with foreigner men. They just
didn’t suit with my life – and also, not my taste.. tsahhhhhh..! :p However, I
enjoyed myself being loved by many men, got a lot of attention, and also… more
friends, of course!
Once someone said to me, “If you
can maintain your LDR relationship and both of stay faithful to each other, you
can be together for the rest of your life. This means your love is so strong.”
Actually, LDR is not a distance
problem. It’s more to hearts problem. If you have that problem, fix it. Don’t
blame the distance! I didn’t predict that I can make the LDR succeed, but I did.
: )
Just don’t think too much about it. Trust each
other – and keep your communication well. It’ll be fun.
- Are you on LDR right now, Angel Lovers?-
